There are several ways to cross-connect & charge a house battery to prevent discharge of the engine start battery. The attached picture/diagram is a common way on van conversions - mine is located in the engine compartment. There are better components (Blue Sea ACR being one), but these components are cheap and readily available so are pretty common.
Referring to the attached picture:
1. Cable from Alternator/Battery
2. Self-reset circuit breaker
(SUCH AS THIS 50 AMP ONE)
3. Jumper cable between circuit breaker and solenoid
4. Ignition-activated exciter wire that activates solenoid when ignition is turned on
5. Solenoid (
SUCH AS THIS ONE)
6. Cable to House Battery.
If you have a handheld volt meter, you can check voltage with engine running to see if the voltage between ground and each terminal is ~14v starting at [1], then [3], then [6], and also check to see if your ignition wire is activating, so you should see +12v at [4] when the key is on. If you're on the road and in a pinch, you can simply jump across terminals (though if you jump across the circuit breaker - the weak link in this system, you will defeat the over-current protection so may be at-risk).
I hope this helps. If your system is not like this, it hopefully explains why some more detail and pictures would assist diagnosis.
Good luck - Peter